Why Women Wednesday

Witizens,

It is a day of celebration! "Go shawty, it's yo' birthday... We gon' party like it's yo' birthday". Two of my best high school friends are both celebrating a birthday today... Wednesday... Both of them women. It's poetic. Unfortunately, both are not starting off on the right side of the birthday. What, with work and the general woes not bothering to stop for the special occasion, it's difficult to be pleased when no one is being overtly pleasant. Why women do we love birthdays so much when we are never satisfied? And is that a problem that we have? Is it us... Is it them?

Of course it's the fault of someone/something else. I am sick of high standards and expectations being considered a "bad thing". If you want to be treated like royalty for a birthday, Valentine's Day, hell, even Cinco De Mayo, then you have every fucking right to. There's nothing wrong with you... there's something wrong with those around you not treating you like royalty. Don't bother lowering your expectations because even lower expectations won't be met. I say reach for the stars and see what you get, even if you miss the mark. Some think, "The sky's the limit", while others think, "The limit's the sky". I happen to like "To infinity, and beyond", but I'm a bit child-like.

As for my best friends, Rejoice! Rejoice! Rejoice! I don't care who's celebrating; I want you to celebrate because you're worth it. Even if it feels like no one appreciates the day you were born, they appreciate every moment spent with you. I sure do. Love you, Bitches.

Happy Birthday,

Not~So~Cosmo

Why Women Wednesday

Witizens,

Wow! It's been ages... I've missed you all. Fair and noblest Witizens, it is only righteous for my return to be on none other day than Wednesday, my most inquisitive day of the week. From the events occurring in those near and dear to me, I ponder this: Why, Women, do you ever get involved with married men (Type A), or get involved whilst you're a married woman (Type B)? Why, Women, do you ever try to commit adultery? Truly, I'm not being judgemental in the biblical sense. I'm not calling anyone a sinner (I do my fair share, I assure you). However, the emotional strain of trying to share your lover, the ability to be shared by your lover, or having to pretend that your lover isn't a lover is emotionally, mentally, and physically taxing. Why would you knowingly put yourselves through that?

I'm aware that any affair begins with no long term goals expected; hence, the whole quick fling mentality. So, when I ask, "Why would you knowingly put yourselves through that?", the simple answer is, "I didn't know I'd feel like this, or this would happen". All I can do is roll my eyes and say, "No shit, Sherlock". The simple truth is that no one knows how any relationship will go. Which is exactly why it's important never to begin an adulterous relationship in the first place. Never!

First, I'll discuss Type A issues. When our hearts lead us to men that already have wives, we acquire hatred for an innocent and unknowing wife; which is completely psychotic. More unhealthy behaviors are bitterness and a sense of betrayal at his companionship with his family while loneliness is being experienced on the other end. What begins as a fling will soon become an obsession due to the scarcity of time together and the appeal of competing for love. Don't believe me? Why do you think, "I'll Take Your Man" and many other songs are big hits? While the aforementioned are both devastating to a woman's ego, there is nothing like someone you know pretending not to know you. To make love to a man and then be shunned in public has got to be painful and shameful. Why go through it?

As for the other, Type B adultery, the issues are just as harmful to one's self. When our hearts lead us to a men that are not our husband, so many different personalities have to form to be able to keep up the lie. There's the happy wife, the dirty, cheating whore, the dirty whore that has to pretend she's a happy wife, and the wife that has to pretend she enjoys being a a dirty cheating whore. It may seem like only two, but depending on the timing, it becomes more numerous and complicated. I truly doubt any woman can return home after fucking another man without hoping she doesn't stink of sex. See? Such a nasty worry for such a small cost. Another problem (which would bug me) is wondering how any man we sleep with can deal with us sleeping with another. Women, does it mean that they'll have you no matter what the circumstance because they love you, or is it that they don't care?

I may be sexist in believing this, but I feel that we women are more emotionally needy than we are sexually needy. At times sex is used just to get to the cuddling and feeling and blah, blah, blah... If I'm wrong about that, then my next point will be inaccurate as well, still I must forge on. If we tend to be more emotionally driven, then there is no way we could pull off juggling two men or sharing a man like most men can. Of all the "Thou Shall Nots", adultery is the one I think women fail at miserably. We are not well suited for purely sexual relationships. Nor do I see that as a flaw. In knowing that, I don't know why any women would begin a love affair that is doomed from the start. Does anyone know why?

Truly,

Not~So~Cosmo
(It's ME, Bitches!)